What sets me apart from other helping professionals is that I have master’s degree in Transpersonal Counseling Psychology. I also have over 15 years of experience providing competent services helping people in alternative lifestyles such as Polyamory, kink, BDSM, open relationships, swinging and more. I am passionate about working with people in relationships. My focus in relationship and sex consulting is on improving communication and problem-solving skills, understanding patterns, and improving the sense of connection between partners.
Now a little about me personally. I want you to know I am coming from a place of knowledge, with both personal and professional experience. I have been poly all my life, though I didn’t always have the language for it. I’ve been in a variety of relationship dynamics and believe that all forms are valid as long as everyone consents. I discovered my kinky side in young adulthood and have really enjoyed exploring the world of BDSM and all it has to offer.
I approach helping others in a highly organic, intuitive way, and have spent many years training my intuitive senses to be able to pick up on things that might otherwise be missed. I tend to be somewhat informal, as I feel that it’s important to be a person first, and an expert second. I offer a highly-personalized approach tailored to each of my client’s individual needs to help them attain the personal growth they’re striving for. With an integration of complimentary approaches, I draw from a variety of methodologies and techniques to incorporate what is most helpful for each individual. I really believe everyone already has within them what they need to heal; we just sometimes need a helping hand. Let me be yours.
M.A. in Transpersonal Counseling Psychology
B.A. in Psychology with emphasis in Family Sciences
Member of AASECT – (American Association of Sexuality Educators Counselors and Therapists)
Age Play, Domestic Violence, Gestalt Therapy, High Protocol, Inclusive Sexuality, Managing Chronic Pain and Chronic Illness, Managing Jealousy, Nonviolent Communication, Sex Addiction, Sexual Assault, Sexual Dysfunction, SM and Lifestyle, True submission, Understanding Trauma
Counselor with Moving to End Sexual Assault.
Transitional women’s advocate with Hope Cottage (Domestic violence shelter).
Family advocate with Hope Cottage.
Women and Family advocate with Safehouse Progressive Alliance for Nonviolence.
Counselor with Access Counseling.
Counselor and Supervisor with The Butterfly Within Counseling Center.
My life mission is to create freedom and fulfillment in committed, intimate partnerships. Thus, in service of the sex-positive, kink, BDSM, swinging and polyamorous communities, I have provided sex education workshops since 2007, and been a relationship coach and consultant since 2010 when I received my coaching certification from the Coach Training Alliance. My focus in coaching and consulting is on improving communication, self-awareness, confidence and agency, and deepening connection.
The above grew out of my personal life experience as a dance instructor, when I saw many unspoken power dynamics play out on the dance floor while coaching pre-wedding couples. (Coaching and consulting is one of ten distinct career fields in which I’ve been engaged!) I found that I ended up coaching these couples as much as I taught them to dance, and followed that calling. It remains an honor to work in this realm – I find my clients endlessly inspiring as they choose to courageously face their challenges and reach for new possibilities.
Personally, I have always been kinky in my mind, and discovered that I could have that reality in my life in 2003. That was quickly followed by an inner frustration that it had taken into my 30s to discover alternative ways to partner – thus my commitment to education in these realms! I’ve been subsequently consensually non-monogamous since 2006 and began exploring emotional polyamory in 2007. I currently live with my nesting partner and our dog.
Over the years I’ve studied several forms of energy work and continue to hone my intuition. This informs my ability to hear what’s not being said and pick up on the subtle elements of emotional awareness, which I use to support my clients in their process.
As a side note, I have also completed over 900 hours of post-graduate training in communication, integrity, leadership, and more with Landmark Education. As a result, I am well trained in accountability coaching, which is a compassionately rigorous style, and will only come into play if you specifically request it. Thus, if you desire an empowered relationship to integrity and accountability, I would be honored to help you achieve additional life goals.
BFA Theatre Design
BA Interior Design